Picking up on our discussion of female orgasms – recall there are three basic types: clitoral, vaginal, and posty-o’s.
Clitoral orgasms result primarily from stimulation of the clitoris (duh). The clitoris, of course, is the little nubby thing that sits at the top of the yoni. Sometimes it hides away and is hard to find, but then it gets a little excited and starts to grow and harden a bit. There are lots of ways to stimulate the clitoris, and each gal has her own preferences. The key point is that clitoral orgasms are the easiest to create, especially if the gal spends some time alone with her little clit and figures out how to do it herself. A reasonable portion of foreplay should be devoted to making the clitoris happy. Guys ignore the clitoris at their own peril.
The clitoris can be stimulated with the palm or finger(s), with the lips and tongue (more on this later), by rubbing against the guy’s leg while dancing or caressing, etc., and even by the guy’s shaft during sex. As with most sexual encounters, it is advisable to start slow and increase the tempo as the excitement builds. There is no need at all to rush, and in time, the same pressure builds in the woman as it does in the man. In the beginning, in fact, a gal’s first clitoral orgasms might seem a lot like a man’s. One big bam and it’s over. In time, however, multiple orgasms start to flow. A gal can have two, three, four, and more, all piled up on each other until she loses any ability to tell where one lets off and the other one starts. They can come like waves, in sets. They cause ripples of pleasure throughout her whole body.
Vaginal orgasms are a bit more unpredictable, in my experience. Some women have them fairly easily, while others believe they do not even exist. Those that have them report they are definitely different from clitoral orgasms. Some say they are more powerful, while others say they are not as intense. They typically occur during intercourse itself, although they can occur from stimulation by the fingers during foreplay. I have seen statistics saying that 60 to 70 percent of women do not have vaginal orgasms. This surprises me. In my experience, a woman is more likely to have vaginal orgasm(s) if she had one or more clitoral orgasms to warm up. And, yes, multiple vaginal orgasms are possible and even likely.
One probable contributor to vaginal orgasms is the G Spot. As I mentioned earlier, this is a slightly raised little clump of nerve endings an inch or two into the upper part of the yoni. If it is pressed or stimulated at the right time, the G Spot definitely contributes to orgasms. Again, some people say there is no such thing, but I assure you that, for many women, the G Spot is very much alive. I’ll also say, yes, it is quite possible to have simultaneous clitoral and vaginal orgasms, especially if the gal is rubbing her clit during intercourse. What is it like? Oh, let’s just say…..INTENSE!
It is natural and common for vaginal orgasms to secrete additional fluids into the vagina. This is a good thing and can help to prolong the fun. A more rare form of secretion is a vaginal ejaculation, which shoots an intense stream of fluid from the vagina. It can appear as if the gal is urinating, except the color of the fluid is white/clear and it has a different scent. One of my first girlfriends in college had very intense vaginal orgasms with long streams of vaginal ejaculation. It was amazing! These are pretty rare, in my experience, so consider yourself lucky if you have them.
Posty O’s are the third type of female orgasm. These are less common (in the sense that fewer women have them) and less powerful than clitoral or vaginal orgasms, but they are still delightful when they do occur. At the term implies, Posty O’s occur after the partners have climaxed and they are still coupled. The guy has to remain pretty still. Waves of pleasure ripple through the gal’s body, even though nobody is moving. These can last for up to a minute or so.
My next entry will cover two important questions:
1. Can any woman have orgasms?
2. Should you fake orgasms if you are not having them?